It was hard for me to practice loving-kindness exercise, when it is already part of my personality. For those who treated me wrong; I don't hate them, I'm not mad at them, and I don't hold any grudges against them. My feeling towards them just stays still in silence. I have nothing to say to them as long as they leave me alone. It is pointless to hold any grudges, why waste your life on something not worth it. I did try the exercise, where you take in the bad things of a love one and release it. When doing this, I thought of my sisters. I wanted to be able to take those pain away from them but all I can do is be supportive towards any decisions that they make for themselves or their kids.
The concepts of mental workout is somewhat like physical exercise. Your body needs to stay in balance and fit. When you treat your body right, in return you gain energy, good health, and great figure. Like your brain, it needs to be feed with many positive thoughts, relax so it won't overload, and equilibrium. Exercising your mind through meditation is a good method. It is like organizing your thinking, that way you can better look at things and be clear with what you want to achieve in life.
Mental training can transform the mind by disturbing emotions that cause anger, hatred, fear, worry, confusion, and doubt while enhancing positive emotions such as patience, loving-kindness, openness, acceptance, and happiness. Even though these contemplative practice does not work on me; I would love to try them on others. Maybe beginning with my boyfriend, he can sure use them in his life. Is it even possible that some on these good deeds would rub off from me and pass on to him?
DayDream,
ReplyDeleteThat is so wonderful that you are able to feel that way about others. It truly is freeing to not have any bad feelings. They just sit and cause havoc in our physiological systems and are a waste of time! That is interesting that you said that you were thinking of your sisters in the Loving Kindness exercise. That is the first thing I thought of! I will follow your lead and be as supportive and nonjudgmental as possible for them.
Take care
Karin
Hello,
ReplyDeleteI great that you already have a good foundation on loving-kindness. It is often hard to not hold grudges in, and as we all know it is also unhealthy to hold on to them. It seems like you really have a great start towards interal health. Kepp up the great work.
Did you feel that the pain actually left them? This is the concept I had a problem with during this Unit. I did not feel anything during this one. The previous exercises were very helpful for me.
ReplyDeleteI also amazed by the fact that you are able to not hold grudges against anyone. I usually do not hold any grudges, but I could not say that I never do. Great job!
It is great that you are able to have these feelings about people. Holding onto feelings of hate or resentment are a waste of time and it is great that you have these view points in your life.
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